Dick Wolfsie: These are words that fight
A woman who is silent during an argument with her husband is four times more likely to die of heart disease. That’s according to a study that was published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Medicine, a publication that I don’t usually read, but at my doctor’s office I had a choice between this or a Reader’s Digest from 1993.
So let me understand this. If I argue with my wife, I’m a rude, sexist bully. But if she wants to argue with me, will she live longer? This suggests that more women will be keen to challenge their husbands’ views in hopes of staying healthy. This puts men in a difficult situation. My favorite phrase to Mary Ellen: “Would it kill you to agree with me to change?” has a new meaning.
That same newspaper also revealed to the public that drinking multiple cups of coffee a day is good for your health, just months after the same publication claimed that coffee caused heart disease. For a long time they also said tea was good for you, so now I drink tea and coffee four times a day just to be sure. I’m not convinced that I will live longer, but since I can never fall asleep, I will definitely feel longer.
My wife and I have argued about weird things over the years. “Arguing” is probably a poor choice of words, because Mary Ellen always reads this weekly column before it’s published and she wouldn’t want readers to assume we don’t get along. We talked about it the other day as our voices grew louder and we clenched our fingers. In the end, I would have said that I had lost the discussion, but now I know that I was simply annihilated in a friendly discussion.
The truth is, we’ve debated just about everything in our 42 years of marriage: how to eat popcorn; when to nap; how to load a dishwasher; how to cook a scrambled egg. Once we debated whether my mother knew how to raise children. I thought my mother had done a good job, but I have to admit that Mary Ellen provided strong evidence to the contrary. Me!
I must not be a good debater because I feel like I’m losing the exchange even though I have most of the facts in my favor. For example, I was sure last July was my wife’s 71st birthday, but she claimed she was only 67. I knew she was joking, but I loved the challenge and the chance to win an argument. I asked to see his passport and driver’s license to strengthen my position. “Not only that, Mary Ellen, but I’m 75 and I remember when we got married I was four years older than you. That hasn’t changed.
“Oh, Dick, you’re living in the past. It was 42 years ago. »
Mary Ellen keeps reminding me that if she digs in and holds her ground in a disagreement, she will live to be old. “Dick, don’t you always want me to be there to take care of you?”
No arguments there.
Retired television personality Dick Wolfsie writes this weekly column for the Daily Journal. Send feedback to [email protected]